Is money his only motive?

QMy lover only seems interested in my money! I’ve booked us a trip to Barbados but I can’t ignore the truth…if I didn’t earn so much, he’d be long gone. I pay for all our nights out and help him out with any bills. I do this not because I’m a fool, but because I can, and I love him. But it’s all one-sided. Should I go on hols alone and risk losing him? Suzanne, 44 A Sorry,honey, you are a fool. It’s fine to help your partner out with money, but any relationship should be about give and take. If you felt comfortable about this situation with your man, you wouldn’t be writing to me.

We don’t give to receive, but it seems he’s doing all the taking. You can’t keep funding him – you’ll end up with no money in the bank or no love in your heart for him.