Secrets on her phone
I caught my wife sexting a bloke on an online fantasy game. I threatened him physically – and, on reflection, I shouldn’t have behaved like that.
But it’s destroying my life and health, worrying about this.
How do I handle it? Bill, 32
Regardless of whether anything physical went on or not, this is cheating. If you have to hide something on your phone, you’re doing something wrong.
I’m glad you recognise you acted wrongly in aggressively confronting the other man – your problem’s with your wife, not him.
She’s getting pleasure out of these racy texts, so you need to ask her why she feels the need to look for that pleasure with someone other than you. Then you and she need to work out if it’s an issue you can – and are willing – to fix.