Hubby won’t lose weight

QAfter a recent medical diagnosis, I’m trying to eat healthily. I try to encourage my obese husband – who ignores his type 2 diabetes – to join me, but he just refuses.

I know marriage is ‘in sickness and in health’, but I feel like I’m waiting for him to kill himself.

When I say something, he says I’m projecting my medical issues onto him. Am I being unfair? Tammy, 50

AIt’s totally fair to ask your husband to lose weight, flower. Understandably, you want the man you married in your life forever.

Tell him straight that while you want to stick by your wedding vows, you can’t let your life be impacted by his decisions.

It’s time to be blunt and tell him that if he carries on the way he’s going, you’ll just end up being his carer and his friend, not his wife.