Ouch! Sex is a pain

QFor the past few years, sex has been so painful for me. Last year, we found a private doc who suggested an op that would help, so me and my husband remortgaged the house to find the money.

It worked for a while but now the pain is back.

My hubby has been really supportive but now I’m scared to tell him as we’ve spent everything we had. I feel lost. Jo, 32

AI feel for you, sweetheart. First thing to do is open up to your hubby. Sounds like you’ve got a good’un and he’ll want to be there for you.

Then the pair of you should make a doctor’s appointment to get yourself checked out.

A sex therapist might also help. There are lots of ways for intimacy to thrive even without full sex. Getting creative might be fun!

First things first, though – tell your hubby. Do it today.