I’m feeling so guilty

QI’ve recently lost my partner to suicide and I’m really struggling to move on.

I keep thinking that it was my fault it happened. Even though I know it’s not true, I can’t help feeling guilty.

I don’t know which way to turn as people don’t seem to understand.

Please help.

Tara, 45

APlease know you’re not to blame for your partner’s death. I know it’s hard but let go of that guilt, flower – there’s nothing you could have done to save them and they wouldn’t want you to be blaming yourself, I’m sure.

If loved ones haven’t experienced the loss of someone by suicide, it’s hard for them to understand, even when they want to.

So seek help from your GP or a bereavement charity.

Allow yourself time to grieve, and grieve in the way you need to, not the way others want you to.

I’m sending you nothing but love.