No sex, please!

Q

I’ve only had sex once and I had to force myself to try it. It was consensual but I didn’t enjoy one moment of it and couldn’t wait for it to be over.

All my mates go on about it all the time and I feel abnormal.

I don’t think I’m gay – I don’t want sex with anyone. But that one time put me off for good.

Please help!

Jay, 22

A

Bless you! First up, you’re not weird. Whatever your sexual orientation, everyone’s desire and libido are different and you shouldn’t compare yourself to your pals.

But our desires do change over time. Not feeling very sexual now doesn’t mean that you’ll never get the desire if you fall in love in the future.

Maybe think of it this way... You don’t want sex with anyone you’ve met yet.