SUR­VIV­ING THE GREAT PAUSE

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Life as we knew it has changed – and for some it’s for the bet­ter. Katy Brown, co-founder of The Vi­brancy Hub, of­fers her top tips for main­tain­ing the best of these times when life al­ters again

COVID-19, known to many as The Great Pause: the strangest ex­pe­ri­ence of our lives. The en­forced stop. A type of slow­ing down that many of us had pre­vi­ously dreamt about when life was over­whelm­ing, and some­thing that ini­tially ap­peared un­bear­able for those who like to be busy bees.

We soon set­tled into a new kind of rhythm how­ever, and found there were as­pects of the slower pace of lock­down life that we re­ally en­joy: the lack of rush­ing, the qual­ity time with fam­ily mem­bers, the re­moval of the in­tense jug­gle of a di­ary packed with work, fam­ily and so­cial com­mit­ments...

We have more head space

– for our­selves and our loved ones. We have cre­ated new rou­tines and re­dis­cov­ered old hob­bies. And it feels good. We have heard the same thing from al­most every one of our coach­ing clients: “I’m not re­ally sure I want to go back to my old nor­mal” – and they’ve also con­fided that they’re feel­ing guilty for think­ing this way. “I’m en­joy­ing the slower pace, but this isn’t real life,” they say, while ex­press­ing ap­pre­hen­sion about re­turn­ing to a hec­tic sched­ule. They sim­ply can’t see how their ‘new nor­mal’ could be any dif­fer­ent once work/ school/so­cial life re­sumes.

Our nor­mal life now feels like part of the past. We don’t want to go back – only for­wards, and we’re ready to build some­thing dif­fer­ent.

At the Vi­brancy Hub, we are here to re­as­sure you that there is a way to de­cide how you want your new nor­mal to look. Here are our top tips for cre­at­ing it af­ter lock­down re­sumes:

KATY’S TOP TIPS

Cre­ate time in your di­ary to cap­ture your thoughts. Make a note every day of what feels good about now. What is dif­fer­ent to life be­fore lock­down? And what specif­i­cally feels bet­ter? Con­sider why it feels good. How does it make you feel in your­self?

What does it let you do more of?

Think about how your ideal next ‘new nor­mal’ would look and al­low your­self to dream a lit­tle. You will hear a voice in your head say­ing, “but that could never hap­pen be­cause of XYZ.” For now, try to move these thoughts to one side and al­low your­self the plea­sure of imag­in­ing an ideal day or week.

Now it’s time to get spe­cific. If you know a qui­eter cal­en­dar would al­low for bet­ter qual­ity fam­ily time, how many so­cial en­gage­ments are you pre­pared to com­mit to per week/month? Would you pre­fer to work from home a cer­tain num­ber of days, now you know you can? Cre­ate a set of mini rules for your­self that will en­able you to main­tain the plea­sures you have dis­cov­ered dur­ing lock­down.

Com­mu­ni­cate your mini rules where re­quired – what con­ver­sa­tions need to be had with your part­ner/fam­ily/boss? Your life is an on­go­ing act of cre­ation, and you are 100% in charge.

ABOVE: Laura Bam­ber and Katy Brown of The Vi­brancy Hub. Photo: Karen Stani­land-Platt

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