‘She should wait un­til the time is ab­so­lutely right’

Closer (UK) - - News -

Re­la­tion­ship ex­pert Dr Becky Spel­man tells Closer, “Michelle is clearly close to her moth­erin-law Carol but, while it’s nat­u­ral for Carol to want her daugh­ter-in-law to have a baby, Michelle should wait un­til she is fully ready. Young women can feel a tremen­dous amount of pres­sure from par­ents and in-laws to start a fam­ily, and there is an ex­pec­ta­tion for peo­ple to have chil­dren right af­ter they get mar­ried. But young cou­ples like Michelle and Mark might be more ca­reer-minded and not ready to try for a fam­ily. Plus women are hav­ing ba­bies when they are much older these days thanks to science and IVF. Chil­dren are a huge re­spon­si­bil­ity and some women mourn the loss of their old life and the free­dom they once had. It would be aw­ful if Michelle felt like that. Any­one who is get­ting pres­sure from oth­ers, should be po­lite but also as­sertive and say, ‘No mat­ter how many times you ask, my re­sponse is not go­ing to change. I am not ready yet.’ Older women can yearn to be grand­par­ents, but Michelle shouldn’t have a child just be­cause her mother-in-law keeps ask­ing. She should only do it when the time is ab­so­lutely right for her and Mark.” ● For more info about Becky Spel­man and her ser­vices, go to www.thep­ri­vateth­er­apy clinic.co.uk

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