HOW TO OPEN UP IF YOU’RE FEELING LOW

More than 70 per cent of people with mental illness actively conceal it. Emma says speaking out makes a huge difference

Although the mental A health stigma is lessening, for many, uttering the words “I feel depressed”, or “I am struggling with my anxiety” is still near impossible. The fact that suicide is still the biggest killer of under-40s shows how steep the hill remains and, if we are to scale it, we need to get better at asking for help. When I ask clients why they haven’t told their partners, parents or friends about their feelings, most say they don’t want to be a burden, or they feel that loved ones have become impatient and frustrated. My advice is always the same; you need to ask for help, to tell them that it takes all of your strength to even get out of bed in the morning and that you need their support. If you worry they may blame themselves, show them some information about your condition so they fully understand it. Explain that the fact you are telling them is proof you value them. Your work may be able to offer counselling, and while speaking to your boss would be the first step in getting a referral, you can approach your HR department instead, and they can liaise with your boss on your behalf. Talking to loved ones is a must, but sometimes professional help is required, too. If you can’t face going to your GP, find a support organisation online, or locally, and ask how they can help you. Be honest and feel no shame in voicing your struggles. Nobody chooses a mental illness, but you can choose how to deal with it – and support can really help.