DON’T FEEL RUSHED TO PUT A RING ON IT

Several celebs have got engaged within weeks or even days of meeting. Emma says a solid base is crucial to make it last

Bollywood star B Priyanka Chopra and singer Nick Jonas got engaged after a few months of dating; CBB star Roxanne Pallett said “yes” just a week after meeting steelworker Lee Walton; and Caroline Flack called off her engagement to reality star Andrew Brady after a threemonth whirlwind romance.

When it comes to love, there are no rules or “normal” time frames, but there are certain factors to always bear in mind. When we start a relationship, we are on our best behaviour, only wanting our new partner to see our most flattering side, shielding them from our less perfect traits. This honeymoon period isn’t a realistic reflection of life, and once the initial excitement wanes, people’s true selves emerge. Learning plenty about your partner before taking any big step is worthwhile; what are their virtues and vices, hopes and dreams, how do they deal with conflict and sadness, do they get on with your friends and family? Getting to know your partner can only strengthen your bond.

You should never feel pressured to get engaged. Even if all your friends are settling down, do what feels right for you. If you want to take it slowly, do. The right partner will accept that. If you both feel ready to make the commitment, that’s OK, too. Nothing is set in stone and an engagement can be called off if you realise you’ve made a mistake. Loved ones will help you pick up the pieces and you’ll have learned valuable lessons. Don’t rush, and be sure.