HOW TO SPOT & STOP THEM

Narcissistic abuse expert Alison Smith, who runs support group Narcissistic Abuse Victims’ Healing, explains, “Seventy five per cent of narcissists are male. In general, they lack empathy, expect special treatment, have problems regulating emotions, are superficial and value appearance. They are prone to anger and tantrums, and are hypersensitive to criticism. There are two main types – the dangerous and not so dangerous – but also many subtypes. The dangerous ones have psychopathic or sociopathic tendencies and will go to any lengths to manipulate and abuse, and feel no remorse. The other type are less abusive and more arrogant. They are egocentric and need to be the centre of attention. The best way to stop a narcissist is to avoid being sucked in. Don’t try to placate their unreasonable expectations and demands. Keep your own expectations low and, most importantly, avoid being swayed by their charm. Don’t try to change them, either – your efforts at arguing actually feed their vanity.” For more information, go to Abusevictimshealing.co.uk