‘My friends dropped me when I fell pregnant’
Laura Davies, 28, lives in Bournemouth with her partner Scott, 29, a surveyor, and their son Max, eight. She says, “Before I fell pregnant with Max, when I was 20, my life was a whirlwind. I was a photography student and always out with friends. But when I had Max, my life changed immeasurably. My friends were still out clubbing, while I felt like I was suffocating under a mountain of nappies. We drifted apart as we were at completely different life stages.
“I tried to make new friends but found it difficult. I went to mother and baby groups, but the other mothers were older and I felt they looked down on me. Scott was supportive, but he was at work during the day so there was little he could do to help. I’d end up going to my local library just so I felt I was getting some human contact.
“Three years ago, someone suggested I contact the Young Women’s Trust [a charity that supports women aged 16-30, www.youngwomenstrust.org]. I joined an advisory panel on maternal discrimination and ended up meeting lots of young women just like me. It kickstarted my ability to make friends and gave me confidence. Now, I no longer feel lonely, but it was a crippling time.”