Is your child talking to a ghost?
One in three of us believes in spirits, but what would you do if your son or daughter was convinced they were communicating with someone on the other side? Closer investigates…
When Katie Jones’ daughter began W complaining that there were two men standing at the end of her bed each night, she put it down to nightmares. But after months of sleepless nights, she took two-year-old Alice to a medium on the advice of a friend – and was stunned to learn that her toddler was being visited by ghosts.
Katie, 33, from Canterbury, says, “I was at the end of my tether over it and a friend suggested we take Alice to a medium. I’m quite openminded, so I thought it could give us some answers. The medium said that the two men were my dad and grandad. At first, I was sceptical, but since then, Alice has continued to see ghostly spirits.
“When she was three, she was convinced she’d been talking to a little girl called Sheila. I did a bit of digging online and learned that a girl had been murdered in a nearby house. As I was reading a news article about the murder on my laptop, Alice peered over my shoulder and saw a picture of the little girl. Without any prompting, she told me it was Sheila. I was gobsmacked.”
Alice’s story may seem farfetched, but spiritual author Jacky Newcomb says it’s not uncommon for children to play with ghosts.
Jacky, who wrote the book Angel Kids on the subject, says, “I come across many children who have spirit playmates and, the younger the child, the more likely this is to happen. The ghost may be a deceased relative or a spirit associated with the property the child lives in.
“Don’t be afraid to ask your child to tell you more about their invisible friend. If they give you information, such as old-fashioned names or descriptions that are outside their normal experience, that could be a sure sign it’s a spirit. The majority lose their ability to communicate well before adulthood.”
Mum-of-six Katie says that Alice soon got used to her ghostly sightings.
She explains, “I think she found seeing my dad and grandad quite frightening, but after I explained who they were, she was fine. Then, a few weeks later, she said she’d seen my nana. She described all her clothes and mannerisms and knew things she’d never been told, so I knew she wasn’t making it up.
“It was a year later, when we moved to Spain, that she told me about Sheila, the little girl who had been murdered. None of the other children have ever seen ghosts, but Alice seemed happy and healthy, so my husband Gareth and I tried not to worry.”
While living in Spain, a family friend had a stillborn baby, and named him Max.
Katie remembers, “We never spoke about it in front of the children, as we felt they were too young. But 18 months later, Alice said she’d been visited by a baby called Max. She was just four – she’d never heard his name or knew anything about him. We couldn’t believe it. A couple of years later, she told me it was Max’s fourth birthday. I checked the date, and she was right.”
Katie says that other than speaking to mediums – who all say her daughter has a great gift – she didn’t seek medical or expert advice.
She says, “I don’t think a doctor would have believed me and, besides, Alice is a bright, confident little girl, and she always does well at school. Whatever she was seeing wasn’t affecting her.”
Now, aged 11, Alice’s gift is fading. Alice explains, “I see them less now. To any other children seeing things like this, I’d say that you don’t have to be scared. Ghosts are just looking out for you, and trying to protect you.”
Single mum Amelia, 37, from Evesham, also believes her daughter, Lilith, is able to communicate with ghosts.
She explains, “When Lilith was two, she began blaming any naughty behaviour on ‘Crocodile Boy.’ At first, I thought he was an imaginary friend, but as Lilith began to
share more details, it became more confusing.
“She told me he was called Crocodile Boy because he’d died in a fire so his skin was bumpy. I was shocked, but even more so when she said that his mum was in heaven because ‘bad men’ had stabbed her to death. She was only three and had no way of knowing what house fires and murders were – I don’t know how she could have learned this information. But Lilith didn’t seem bothered, she would chat to Crocodile Boy and would even tell me she was holding his hand as she walked down the road.”
Amelia explains that when Lilith was four she was devastated to realise that Crocodile Boy was a ghost.
She explains, “She came running into my room in hysterics. She knew that her friend was dead, but hadn’t realised this meant he was a ghost – the concept was too complex for her to understand.
“She slept in my bed for days, refusing to go into her room. Then, one morning, she said that Crocodile Boy had left as he didn’t want to scare her.”
Amelia says that Lilith, now 10, doesn’t see her friend any more.
She adds, “She does sometimes tell me she sees other spirits, but she’s not scared of them. I’ve spoken to a medium, who says not to worry about it if she’s healthy and happy, Mostly, I’m just happy that Crocodile Boy has gone!”
❛SHE KNEW THINGS SHE’D NEVER BEEN TOLD, SO SHE WASN’T MAKING IT UP❜
Katie says her been daughter had communicating the spirit of with murdered girl a
Amelia believes Lilith can see ghosts