DON’T LET YOURSELF BE SO EASILY LED!
One in 3 adults has done something they didn’t want to, thanks to peer pressure. Emma says we need to stay strong and not give in
We like to think we W grow out of peer pressure, but how often have you found yourself resisting the urge to have another drink, only to then agree to partake in another round? Most of us are followers to some degree, because it ensures we fit in and are included socially, which makes us happy. Unfortunately, our natural desire to belong can be counterproductive. A classic example is when you’re trying to eat well, only to be coerced into ordering dessert because your mates say it’s a “cheat day”.
Worse still, research shows that 12 per cent of people have bullied someone because of a friend’s influence. It’s not OK for others to pressure, force, or trick you into doing things you don’t want to, and no healthy relationship operates this way.
My advice? Be prepared. Rehearse saying “no” – it will genuinely make it easier to say it in real life. As well as simply saying “no, thanks” you could say “not today”, “maybe another time”, or “thanks, but I can’t.”
Change your mindset, too, by accepting that you don’t need to be liked by everyone. It sounds harsh, but it means that you will spend time with people who accept you for who you are and who are a positive influence on your life. Trust your gut instinct, so if you feel uncomfortable or pressured, politely decline what’s being suggested, voice your disapproval if it’s unkind or dangerous, or simply walk away. Respect yourself and your choices, and don’t give in to anybody being pushy!