HOW TO COPE WITH A BREAK-UP

Sara says, “If there really is no going back for your relationship, there is light at the end of the tunnel – divorce can be a positive thing as it gives you a chance to redesign your life the way you want it to be. And divorce doesn’t need to be an aggressive severing, if you take action to think how to best support everyone before you make the decision. If you have children and are feeling guilty, then consider what message you are teaching them by staying in an unhappy marriage. Remember you are their role model and they will take their lead from you.”

SARA’S TIPS ON HANDLING A SPLIT

● Being kind and respectful will serve you well in the long run, especially if you have children together. ● You need to work through the separation at your own pace and not feel pressured into communicating with your ex until you have had a chance to properly consider what you want to say. If you feel there is a chance to salvage things, consider couples’ therapy. ● Steer clear of the rosetinted glasses. It’s easy to romanticise about all the good bits, so writing a list of all the things you weren’t happy with can be a therapeutic exercise. ● Start to plan a future that gets you excited – book a holiday you’ve always wanted to go on, or change your look. Even getting a new haircut can help you look ahead. ● If you are struggling to cope with the negative emotions, make sure you ask your GP or an expert for help and advice.

The Split by Sara Davison is available on Amazon Kindle from 7 January. Visit her website at Saradavison.com