‘My spirit fiancé wouldn’t stop partying, so I dumped him!’
Amethyst Realm couldn’t wait to marry her ghoulish fiancé – but when things turned sour, she had to give up the ghost. Now she counsels others like her...
When Closer last spoke to Amethyst Realm, she was planning to start a family with her partner of nine months: a ghost she’d met on holiday. The 32-year-old happily revealed that her spirit partner, Ray, was great in bed, and Closer even sent the pair out on a romantic date, along with two mediums who tried to learn more about Ray. Amethyst said they were so in love that, incredibly, they hoped to have a “ghost baby” together.
But two years on and Amethyst has been forced to dump her ghostly groom-to-be. And now she’s using what she learned during their romance to counsel other people in relationships with ghosts.
Amethyst, from Nottingham, says, “I really wanted things to work out between Ray and I, but it just wasn’t meant to be.” Surprisingly, Ray was not the first ghost Amethyst had been involved with. She had her first encounter with a phantom lover when she was just 18. She explains, “I’d notice things going missing in my home – like my phone – then they’d reappear in the same room. A couple of days later, I went into that room and there was an energy in the air, like sexual tension. Then I felt the weight of a person – the ghost – pressing against me.”
INTIMATE
Incredibly, Amethyst dumped her real-life fiancé for her new otherworldly lover. She says, “We soon began an intimate relationship, which meant ending my real-life relationship.
Our romance was purely physical, so we didn’t share much about our lives with each other. My friends and family weren’t surprised, though, they believe in ghosts too and were very accepting of our relationship.”
While this first ghostly romance fizzled out, Amethyst went on to have relationships with around 20 other ghosts.
She says, “I decided that ghosts were far less trouble than ‘real’ men! Sometimes, the spirits would make their move in my house. I think they could sense that such a spiritual person lived there, but often it would be in pubs or old buildings. I think spirits are drawn to me because they can sense I’m open-minded and have a positive energy.
“My ghostly suitors would make their presence felt by moving stuff around the house or stroking me. One even used to draw little hearts in the condensation on the windows!
“People have told me
I’m imagining it all, and I understand my relationships have been far from what’s conventional, but I’ve never doubted myself, or my lovers.”
Then, in February 2018, she met Ray while on holiday in Australia. Amethyst says, “I was walking through the Outback when I felt a rush of energy, and I just knew I’d met a new lover.
“Sex with Ray was the best I’d ever had – my orgasms were so intense. I realised human men had never truly satisfied me.”
CHEMISTRY
Amethyst and Ray had planned their wedding in Wookey Hole – a haunted cave in Somerset – and even planned to have a child together, with Amethyst insisting that phantom pregnancies have actually occurred when a woman is impregnated by a ghost. She even hoped to be the first
woman to carry a ghost child to full term. But while their sexual chemistry was undeniable, Amethyst knew little about her lover – they only communicated through feelings, and she didn’t know anything about his history. She says, “The fact he was a bit of a closed book and didn’t actually talk to me was unusual. Other ghost lovers would engage in conversation.”
And then, while on holiday in Thailand in 2019, Amethyst noticed a change in her fiancé. She says, “I think he may have got into drink or drugs; he just wasn’t the ghost I fell in love with. He became short-tempered, inconsiderate and stopped paying me any attention.
NEGATIVE ENERGY
“Once we were back home, he started bringing other really unpleasant spirits into the house. They’d party for days.”
Amethyst pleaded with Ray to stop bringing these entities home. She says, “He’d just laugh and tell me telepathically not to be so anti-social. In the end, it was too much – he wouldn’t stop partying, so I dumped him.”
Amethyst performed a ritual as part of the break-up. She says, “I burnt sage, which is supposed to cleanse and purify an environment. He was angry, but I managed to fight against his negative energy and then, suddenly, he was gone.”
Throughout their tempestuous relationship, Amethyst became an expert in ghost lover behaviour, so decided to share her knowledge with others.
She says, “I’d never considered a career in counselling, but I’m now an expert in ghost dating. I put the word out via close friends and soon had my first clients. There are more people in relationships with ghosts than we realise.”
During an average week, Amethyst will see up to three couples. During an initial session with Amethyst, the living half of the couple will go through their issues, Amethyst then provides help and support through a combination of spells, rituals and advice.
TRUST ISSUES
She says, “One of the most common issues I observe is trust. We have ideas about what goes on in the spirit realm. It takes a lot of faith in your otherworldly lover to trust them when they disappear, which they do regularly.”
She remembers one case
– a living couple who’d both taken on spirit lovers. Their respective phantom partners were happy with the set-up, but the living husband and wife were both jealous. She says, “In the end, I persuaded them to go on a double date. They did that, got on brilliantly and are now all happily co-habiting!”
But since calling off her engagement, Amethyst hasn’t had any more spiritual romances. She says, “I need some time to focus on myself, and a lover, of any kind, is too time-consuming. Also, I don’t want to take the risk of catching COVID-19, which I believe ghosts may be able to carry without getting sick themselves. For now, there aren’t going to be any men in my life – living or dead!”
HE GOT INTO DRINK AND DRUGS – HE WASN’T THE GHOST I FELL IN LOVE WITH