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Parents often expect children to be able to do certain things by a particular age, but here’s why you shouldn’t worry...

Every child is unique, and while there is an average age for when they are supposed to achieve certain milestones, if yours doesn’t, that isn’t evidence there is a problem. Many children chatter early on, seemingly mastering language, while others learn to navigate the world by pointing at things. Over time, these gaps close and the worries parents had become a distant memory. There are five areas where delays occur: cognitive (thinking and problem solving), relating to others, speech and language, fine motor skills and daily living skills. If your child is struggling in these areas, don’t see it as a failure, be your child’s cheerleader and get help – your GP can refer them to speech therapy, for example. If an older child has started to struggle in school, ask teachers about having them tested for dyslexia, dyscalculia, and dyspraxia, as these are very common and can make learning more challenging, but have no bearing on a person’s intelligence. Schools can apply for extra resources to make your child’s educational experience more enjoyable. It can be frustrating if you feel your child isn’t trying hard enough, but putting pressure on them to achieve does more harm than good. No child actively tries to ruin their education, and when you are struggling, you often feel stupid and exposed as a failure. You need to be reminded of your worth. Remember, Einstein didn’t talk until he was four, Salma Hayek is dyslexic and Justin Timberlake struggles with ADHD, yet all have achieved incredible things.