SPOT AND CURB INTERNET OVERUSE IN OLDER ADULTS
We often think of an over-reliance on technology as a problem only faced by young people, but many older relatives may have developed an unhealthy attachment that needs challenging
The internet has created endless opportunities but there are clear downsides, too. Research has shown, for example, that couples who spend lots of time on social media feel more dissatisfied with their relationships. And with 65 per cent of over-65s using a smartphone, you may be finding it harder to get your parents’ attention off a screen than that of your children!
CREATE BOUNDARIES
If your mum or dad is regularly staring into their phone, or interrupting your conversation to share a Facebook post or YouTube video, be honest about your frustrations and make it clear that you want to spend quality time with them. Suggest that you spend the first five minutes together looking at any photos, or videos so after that you have their full attention, then put your silent phones out of sight. This allows you both to actively listen to what’s going on in each other’s lives, increasing the quality of your relationship.
HELP WITH SETTINGS
Phones are designed to suck you in and keep you on them for as long as possible. One very effective method for this is push notifications. These crafty but effective prompts compel us to check every ping. Research has found that when these are turned on, the quality of the engagement you have with those around you in real life can reduce by as much as 30 per cent, but your parent may be unaware they can switch them off – so show them how. For some older people, technology has become a lifeline, and the reason they appear to have an unhealthy reliance on it is down to them feeling isolated. Instead of berating them for being perpetually connected to their phone, help them to think of some interesting activities that they could get involved with locally. Encouraging them to try new hobbies could be a real antidote to their overuse of tech.
DITCH DEVICES
As a family, have device-free days where you all switch off your phones and catch up properly. Reminding everyone how much better life is when you connect fully will help to break unhealthy habits.