PAUL’S TAKE…

Cosmopolitan (UK) - - Read -

The up­sides of be­ing a model are amaz­ing – from trav­el­ling the world to go­ing to the best events – but the dayto-day dif­fi­cul­ties in man­ag­ing per­sonal re­la­tion­ships can be chal­leng­ing. In my twen­ties and thir­ties, re­la­tion­ships were some­times su­per­fi­cial, but when I met Fed­er­ica, I felt I needed to know her. We danced, kissed, and I jok­ingly asked her to come home with me. She de­clined, but grabbed my phone and took a pic­ture of us for In­sta­gram. For our sec­ond date, we went to Bar­ba­dos, and two years later I pro­posed.

As a mar­ried man, there have been times when women have made a move – taken a seat next to me at events and asked “Where to next?” or leant in for a kiss when we’re in­tro­duced. I’m al­ways po­lite, but very firm, and luck­ily Fed­er­ica can laugh about the sto­ries. I’m in a What­sApp group with other male models, and we some­times chat about the inap­pro­pri­ate or wild things we’re sent on In­sta­gram – we make light of it as you can’t take it se­ri­ously.

As mod­el­ling in­volves pos­ing con­fi­dently for a brand you are the face of, peo­ple can make snap judge­ments, la­belling you as ma­te­ri­al­is­tic or ar­ro­gant. Hav­ing dys­lexia has meant I don’t con­sider my­self tra­di­tion­ally aca­demic or con­fi­dent in cer­tain ar­eas, which can be tough, but Fed­er­ica’s helped me with this, and ap­pre­ci­ates we have dif­fer­ent types of in­tel­li­gence, mak­ing us stronger as a team. Peo­ple hide be­hind a six-pack and a beau­ti­ful face, or a job ti­tle and a PhD. She’s shown me that speak­ing from the heart is the best way to con­nect to every­body, no mat­ter what their job.

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