Should I date fellow jogger?
months ago I moved house and started to take a new jogging route. In the park I have been running past a very dapper gentleman. He always smiles and sometimes I stop to have a quick chat. Then he suggested we go running together. I am 53 and have been divorced for a decade so the thought of being with a man is slightly terrifying. As he runs considerably slower than I do, should I adjust my pace to match his? I would hate to put him off but take my training very seriously.
Susie, Nottingham DEBORAH SAYS I’M NOT best placed to answer this question as I find the idea of running slightly terrifying, let alone with someone else beside me. Is this how dating occurs in the running community?
Is “shall we run together?” the code for “I fancy you”? Mind you I can’t imagine that any man would like jogging beside a woman who is faster and fitter than he is. You know how sensitive blokes are.
And if you’re in the fast lane you’re not going to like being with a plodder and he will doubtless pick up on your fleet-footed scorn.
So say no to the running but suggest a post-run cappuccino instead. If you need an excuse you could say you want to be alone with your thoughts and your iPod and he’ll think you’re a bit of a Garbo-esque femme fatale. It’ll also give you a chance to shower and put on some lipstick.
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