HELP FOR TEENS’ MENTAL HEALTH

Often the last person a teen wants to talk to is a parent. But communication is key for ring-fencing their mental wellbeing, says consultant psychologist Dr Jai Shree Adhyaru.

“Finding time to talk sounds easier than it is,” explains Dr Adhyaru, who works with Hidden Strength (hiddenstrength.com), a new app offering free 24/7 access to therapists and realtime support for young people in crisis.

“Think about how and when your child prefers to communicate – by text, through little notes, in the mornings or after school. Regular chats will mean they’re more likely to raise something that is bothering them.

“Using open questions like ‘what went well today?’ can be a good conversation starter rather than ‘how was school?’ and focuses attention on positive emotions.

“If your child is struggling, ask what they would advise a friend.

“Solution-focused conversation starters will develop their confidence in managing difficult situations.”

A predictable routine can help manage worries. “This makes young people feel safe and contained, and can also help motivate them after lockdown, which changed our routines significantly.

“It’s a good time to talk about what their routine might look like now restrictions are lifting, new things they might like to do and anything they are worried about or struggling with.”