How to break cancer news to children
THE Prince and Princess of Wales wanted to give their children time to process the news of their mother’s diagnosis before going public.
Kate said: “It has taken us time to explain everything to George, Charlotte and Louis in a way that is appropriate for them, and to reassure them that I am going to be okay.”
The family is thought to have waited to share the news publicly when the children are off school for the Easter holidays.
Cancer Research UK advises parents breaking the news of a cancer diagnosis to be open and honest.
Youngsters are often observant and can pick up on changes in the atmosphere and routine. If they are not told what is happening, they may worry or fear something worse than the truth.
The charity advises that parents may want to think about the questions their child might ask, such as “are you going to die?” and consider how they would answer.
Other tips from Cancer Research UK include:
● Be as prepared as you can be – there are resources to support and help you.
● Take your time – you don’t have to tell them everything at once.
● You can say “I don’t know” to questions for which you do not know the answer.
● Reassure children that they will still be loved and cared for, whatever happens.
Macmillan advises parents to use language their children will understand and to check that they have not misunderstood anything.
The charity suggests parents should explain how their lives and routines may be affected and give children a chance to ask questions.
Younger children may need to be reassured that nothing they did caused the cancer, it is not contagious, and there will always be someone to take care of them.