LETTING GO CAN ALSO MEAN TAKING BACK CONTROL ...

WE ALL love being in control. But have you ever considered that sometimes, being in control actually means deciding to let go?

Things often happen more smoothly and easily when we allow them to unfold in their own time.

Over the past few years, I’ve been learning to loosen my grip. I used to feel I had to control things in order for them to be good and to feel happy.

But that tense, tight, controlling sensation doesn’t feel so nice. In fact, it often sabotages the happiness it’s trying to create. Today, I try to practise the art of ‘surrender’. It means allowing things to be as they are and trusting that everything will work out.

If I’m nervous about, say, making a presentation then, once I get to the meeting, I remind myself to surrender to it, let go and remember that, no matter what happens, I’ll be OK. It’s out of my control now. It’s the mental and emotional equivalent of letting out a big sigh and allowing your shoulders to drop down. It feels so much better than forcing, controlling and being tense.

When we surrender to the symptoms of anxiety and just allow them to be there, without trying to change or control them, they will often start to change all by themselves.

Surrendering to the circumstances of life means you can stop fighting against them and just let them be. Some of us find it hard to surrender, because it can seem like giving up. But sometimes, letting go means regaining control, and giving up the struggle is the most empowering thing we can do.

If trying to control things all the time hasn’t been working for you, isn’t it time to try something different?

When you surrender and flow with life, you relax. And when you relax you’re more able to tune in to your intuition and creativity: it’s easier to think clearly and solutions start to arise more easily.