My lazy, druggie boyfriend refuses to move out

weird, obsessive delusion is no longer acceptable — and, anyway, it’s usually a sign of sexual thrall, which isn’t the case with you.

You want to end this non-relationship and it’s time you did. Full marks for starting the process by seeing if you could qualify for council accommodation, but don’t stop now. First, you must cease to fund his disgusting habits, even though you’ll face his vile mood. toughen up. Stop being his victim.

Something drastic has to happen — like pawning his damn games console, for example. You need the money. Get his parents on side to support everything you do, for the sake of their granddaughter. When you tell him it’s over (as you’re going to), if he refuses to leave the bedroom, move in with the kids and make sure you give him no meals. not so much as a baked bean on a crumb. Why should you?

For that matter, i bet you do his washing — so stop.

it’s time for attrition — and though it will be hard, you have to say: ‘Enough.’

You’ve put up with this man for long enough — and at 33 have a whole life ahead of you.

Going on as you are isn’t ‘ the lesser of two evils’. the real evil is accepting you are ‘stuck’ — and being afraid to liberate yourself and your children.