It’s no fun feeling stuck in a rut

A RE you stuck in a rut? Everyone has their off days, but Age UK says that an unfortunate few feel that their life rarely or never has any meaning as they grow older.

The charity estimates that almost a million people, including nearly one in five of those over 85, feel this way — and is calling on everyone to do more to support them in recognising their own self-worth.

Based on interviews with older people, new research finds that those who have led busy and purposeful lives can end up feeling their contributions are long forgotten and that they don’t count for anything anymore.

The new Age UK report, Struggling To Cope With Later Life, shows that some find it hard to connect to the wider world and lack motivation to look after themselves, feeling stuck in the difficult situations they are in.

In many cases, such feelings are brought on by difficult events, such as bereavement.

At the same time, depression affects 22 per cent of men and 28 per cent of women aged 65 plus — and 85 per cent of older people affected receive no help at all from the NHS.

Ageism can be particularly hurtful too, leading many to feel that society does not really value older people.

Age UK is calling on those who care about older people to listen to their stories and value their contributions, watch for danger signs and find ways to help build a new sense of purpose. Families and friends can be a lifeline, but emotional support often needs backing up with practical action. And professionals can make a big difference, but need time to be able to do so. It’s also high time that harmful ageism was consigned to the past, adds the charity.