When being lonely is good for children

ONE in ten children are ‘often lonely’, if we are to believe the latest Office for National Statistics figures.

This was described as ‘ heartbreaking’ by the Children’s Society, and the usual suspects have rushed to wring their hands and declare that an ‘epidemic’ of loneliness is sweeping through the youth of today.

Loneliness is not a pleasant experience for anyone, young or old, but it is a normal — and transient — part of growing up.

It is the usual consequence of change, be it moving home, changing schools, or a family break-up.

Feeling lonely can be exactly what motivates a person to do something about their circumstances and adapt.

It is the drive behind getting out, meeting people and establishing new social circles, and it helps young people develop resilience and resourcefulness.

We already mollycoddle children too much, and it is creating a generation who lack the basic skills required to survive emotionally.

Let’s not try to protect them from loneliness, as it’s often what encourages them to start living to the full.