Losing my ex-wife

I FELT uncomfortable reading about Jo Foley’s unexpected emotions following the death of her former husband (Femail).

When my ex-wife died ten years after we parted, I was surprised at my strong emotions.

All my forgotten feelings came flooding back and I felt I should have been there to comfort her at the end. our parting had not been amicable, yet with the news of her death I felt a great loss and a terrible sense of guilt.

Questions assailed me: Could I have done more to save the marriage? Was I the guilty one? had my ego got in the way?

But these reawakened emotions abated and I realised I was feeling the loss of something that had once played a large part in my life.

Memories can’t be eradicated, but I have discovered you will eventually experience acceptance. Name and address supplied.