All in the name

I FACED the dilemma about whether I should change my name after marriage (Letters).

I wanted to share a surname with my husband, though he wasn’t bothered either way.

However, changing my name in my 40s would be an administrative nightmare because I had accumulated so much paperwork in my maiden name, including legal documents.

I was surprised that our friends and relatives assumed I would be changing my name and sent wedding gifts in the form of cheques written accordingly.

Even in this age of supposed equality, most people seem to take a dim view if you don’t take your husband’s name on marriage unless you are a celebrity.

I decided not to double-barrel, but use my maiden name for work and my married name for everything else, with both on my passport. It works well.

C. LAKER (nee BAUMBER),

London E4.