There was flirting but it’s sad she’s not into going to the gym

DATING PAST?

I’ve had relationships that have lasted about three years. After the last one I decided I needed some time to focus on my life, mindset — and sorting out some debts. that has turned into five years of singledom, but I would like to meet someone now.

PRE-DATE NERVES?

onlY the normal sort of nerves that everyone gets before a date.

FIRST IMPRESSIONS?

I kneW pretty much on first sight phoebe wasn’t my type physically, but she seemed nice.

She was a bit tall for me. phoebe had made an effort with jeans and a blazer. We had a peck on the cheek at the start, but I knew it wouldn’t be going further.

EASY TO TALK TO?

verY easy. phoebe is quite blunt and speaks her mind, which I like. I’m a bit like that too as I have to be honest in my job as a personal trainer.

She’s observant because she made me realise that, actually, I’m not ready to commit to another relationship just yet. I’ve been so busy building up my business and I still need to focus on that. We talked about exercise, too. She’s not into the gym which I’d find difficult with a partner.

It would make things a bit awkward if she didn’t understand how much time I spend there.

EMBARRASSING MOMENTS?

none at all. there were no weird silences.

DID SPARKS FLY?

not for me but I think she may have found me attractive. We did a bit of flirting but then we were both drinking — and I haven’t had an alcoholic drink for four weeks as I’m training for a marathon.

SEE HER AGAIN?

no. We didn’t swap numbers or anything like that. I have enough friends and don’t need any more. But we had a good time and I enjoyed it.

WHAT DO YOU THINK SHE THOUGHT OF YOU?

I thInk she was probably more attracted to me than I was to her, but then I think she’s ready to settle down with someone who has a different mindset to me.

WOULD YOUR FAMILY LIKE HER?

theY would like her as a person. She’s friendly and chatty but they would know she’s not right for me.

Interviews: JILL FOSTER