I asked what he did for fun — he couldn’t recall having any
DATING PAST?
I was married for 21 years; it was an amicable split because we grew apart. I’ve had a few three-month relationships since then, but I’m enjoying being single.
Any partner would have to understand my focus on my business and family. still, I do want the ‘happy ever after’.
PRE-DATE NERVES?
TO TELL the truth, no. I’ve been on a fair few dates. I approach them all a bit like a business meeting — I go in with a big, confident smile even if I’m not feeling it.
FIRST IMPRESSIONS?
PATRICK arrived an hour late due to train delays. He was flustered so he didn’t pay me any compliments, and it was even more awkward when I told him how long I’d been waiting.
on the plus side, Patrick has a good build and wore a beautiful suit. He is a good-looking chap.
EASY TO TALK TO?
THE conversation was a bit stilted to start with; I felt like I had to do all the work. we swapped stories about what we’re doing to fulfil our passions. Patrick is taking acting lessons to conquer his lack of confidence.
at one point, we were deep in conversation when Patrick blurted out: ‘what are you looking for?’ It was a bit blunt.
I replied: ‘ More of a spark.’ This ignited a discussion about what’s important when it comes to physical attraction. Patrick doesn’t believe in sparks.
EMBARRASSING MOMENTS?
ONLY that my date was so late. But then, as a single mum of three, I got to enjoy an hour on my own in a posh restaurant. every cloud . . . !
DID SPARKS FLY?
NO. EVEN though Patrick is attractive, I fundamentally need someone more confident than me.
Patrick is rather reserved. when I asked him what he did for fun, he couldn’t remember the last time he’d had any.
SEE HIM AGAIN?
PROBABLY not. even though we did swap numbers, we aren’t on the same wavelength. That doesn’t take away from it being a lovely date though.
WHAT DO YOU THINK HE THOUGHT OF YOU?
I DON’T know! He did ask me what I was looking for in a relationship so that, to me, signalled that he liked me.
WOULD YOUR FRIENDS LIKE HIM?
MY FRIENDS would like Patrick, but they would instantly know he isn’t right for me.