CONCERNED ABOUT MY PANTY FETISH

Dear Coleen

I’ve had a fetish for ladies’ underwear since I was 12 years old. I used to try on my mother’s clothes while she was out at work.

When I got married, my late wife really took to the idea and would love seeing me dressed in women’s underwear, and also liked buying clothes for me.

Since she passed away a few years ago, I’ve still worn the underwear, even though I’m now in my 70s. My daughter has known about all this for many years, but the thing I’m most worried about is having an accident and others finding out.

Do you think it’s OK to carry on dressing like this?

Coleen says

I’ve had many letters from men who like to cross-dress in private, others who like dressing up and going to clubs, and some who like to wear women’s underwear beneath their clothes.

So, there are plenty of people who feel like you do and of course I think it’s OK for you to carry on as long as you are getting pleasure from it. You may even be able to connect with other men like yourself – there are plenty of groups and resources online.

It’s good that you’ve been open with your daughter and she’s fine about it. As for having an accident, trust me, the paramedics won’t be looking at your underwear, they’ll be too busy trying to attend to your injuries.

But, if this is something that makes you really anxious to the point where it’s affecting your enjoyment of life, then try wearing the underwear only at home.