WIFE SAYS SHE WANTS A BREAK FROM SEX

Dear Coleen

I’m a guy in my thirties and recently my wife suggested taking a break from sex, as she doesn’t feel good about herself and wants to focus on getting sleep and feeling fit again.

We have two children under four and, to be honest, sex hasn’t been a priority for a while.

I can see her point, but at the same time, I miss sex and intimacy. All we seem to do is run around the kids. Any tips?

Coleen says

Two kids under four is very hard work and I understand why she needs space to find some energy and feel good about herself.

But no sex doesn’t have to mean no romance and I think it’s important to talk about how this is going to work and how you can stay intimate – for example, hugging and kissing, and doing nice things for each other.

I imagine if you take the pressure off sex itself, but put more effort into staying close and taking care of each other, then it’ll naturally lead to sex.

Maybe she’s having a confidence crisis and doesn’t feel attractive or sexy, so make sure you tell her when she looks nice.

The important thing is to stay in touch with how each other is feeling.