HE WANTS SEX BUT I WANT MORE

Dear Coleen

I’m a woman in my mid twenties and I’ve been seeing this guy for a few weeks.

We knew each other as friends first, then one night we were out with our mates and he asked me back to his place for coffee. One thing let to another, we had sex and I stayed the night.

It was great, but in the morning I was taken aback when he said he wasn’t looking for a relationship because he’d recently split from a serious girlfriend after he found she was cheating on him with a mutual friend.

He just wants fun and friendship with no strings attached.

I get his reasons and understand he’s been hurt, but I really like him and I don’t know how to tell him this. I’m worried he’ll just reject me.

Coleen says

Well, he’s kind of rejected you already because he’s been upfront that he doesn’t want a relationship. So, it’s up to you now as to whether you want that kind of arrangement.

Personally, I don’t think it’ll work because you really like him and want more.

How will you feel if he sleeps with other women or meets someone he falls in love with and puts an end to your friends with benefits deal?

I think you’ll be really hurt and also feel used.

Think about what YOU want very carefully before getting involved any deeper. You also don’t want to miss out on the opportunity to meet someone else you can have a proper relationship with.