IT WAS A MISTAKE TO DUMP HER

Dear Coleen

I’m a 26-year-old man and was dating a woman, who’s 24, for 18 months. For the first year things were amazing, but then we started to argue over silly stuff.

I suppose I felt she was pressuring me to make more of a commitment, such as living together, so I broke up with her.

We’ve been apart for a few months now and I miss her like mad and want her back. I totally regret ending things between us and can see now I was impulsive and stupid.

We had a long conversation the other night and she admitted that she still loves me. However, she said she’s not sure about us getting into a relationship again. She says she needs time on her own to think about it.

Is she just letting me down gently or do you think we will really get back together?

Should I back off and give her space or try my hardest to win her back? I’m confused!

Coleen says

Look, you can’t just expect her to come running back into your arms. She will have gone through a lot of heartache after getting dumped and now you’re expecting her to jump to attention again because you’ve suddenly realised you made a mistake. It doesn’t work like that.

Naturally, she’ll be worried about getting back into a relationship with you after having her heart broken. Taking some time to think about it is very sensible.

I would give her the time she needs and just let her know that you’re there whenever she wants to talk things over. And if you do end up back together, then take it slowly. Don’t rush into moving in together just because you’re desperate to seal the deal.