MY HUSBAND LEFT ME BUT WE HAD SEX

Dear Coleen

My husband left me last November. Recently he came to see me because he’d fallen out with his father and needed to talk to someone. I listened to him and gave him a cuddle and before I knew it we were kissing.

Even though he hurt me terribly by leaving, I’m still in love with him and we slept together. But the next morning he left, and when I called him to talk about what happens next, he implied that nothing has changed and that he doesn’t want to get back together.

The same happened a week later and he often texts to ask my advice or just to ask how I am and to say he misses me. What’s going on?

Coleen says When he misses you, or feels lonely, or just feels like having sex, you’re comfortable and willing territory to go to. You’re like a comfort blanket.

I honestly don’t think he’s thinking any more than that. He left you and has made it perfectly clear he doesn’t want to move back in or get back together.

But this is clearly affecting you and he should know better than to mess with your emotions like this.

You’re thinking, “Does he want to get back together? Does he still love me?” But he’s not thinking anything and is just having his cake and eating it. So you need to stop sleeping with him.

Promise yourself that you’re not going to be there every time he wants a shoulder to cry on or somebody to sleep with. That’s just not fair on you and you deserve much better.

Politely stop answering his calls, stop him from coming round and try to move on with your life.

He won’t like it – but, remember, he was the one who left you.