FRUSTRATED BY MY LACK OF SEX AT 74

Dear Coleen

I’m 74 and my wife of 48 years passed away seven years ago.

I dated a lady for about a year and we had sex about six times. I was never really able to perform that well, so we reverted to doing other things, which seemed to be blissful for her.

However, she told me that while she loved me, she wasn’t in love with me and didn’t think we should have a relationship.

To cut a long story short, another lady moved in (also a widow), but she wouldn’t sleep with me because we weren’t married. She was also worried about losing benefits if we did get married!

My problem is, I’m craving sex more and more every day.

Coleen says

If you’re looking for a partner, then I don’t think you’ve met the right one yet. If you’re not compatible sexually, then it won’t work.

I think it’s great that you still have a healthy sex drive – I often get letters from older people where the opposite is true.

And it’s also good that you’ve formed relationships since your wife passed away – I bet you never thought that would happen.

As for this latest lady, it makes me wonder whatever happened to romance! If she’s putting her benefits before your relationship and your sex life, then she’s not the one for you, love!

Of course, it may just be her way of letting you down gently – coming up with an excuse because she’s not interested in sex.

If I were you, I’d keep looking.