MATE’S MAN IS FLIRTING WITH OTHER GIRLS

Dear Coleen

I’m a woman in my early 20s and I have a really good friend who’s dating a guy I’ve known for years.

She is besotted with him and he’s very charming and good looking, but I’ve heard through the grapevine that he’s constantly flirting with other girls when he’s out with his mates.

My friend was badly hurt by her previous boyfriend who cheated on her, so I’d hate for her to end up in the same situation again.

Should I tell her what I’ve been told or just keep quiet and see what happens? I really like her boyfriend, too, but he’s definitely got an eye for the ladies.

Coleen says

I think you should leave them to it. It sounds like a new relationship, which will either develop into something more serious or they’ll realise it’s not right and move on.

Also, I’d be very wary about acting on rumours and gossip – how do you know for sure that what you’ve been told is true? It could just come from someone with a grudge or even out of jealousy. Unless you’ve seen it with your own eyes then I’d keep quiet.

Alternatively, if he’s a good friend of yours, then why not tell him what you’ve heard – I imagine if it’s not true, then he’ll be pretty annoyed about it and will want to set the record straight.

Good luck.