I’M HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH MY PAL’S GIRL

Dear Coleen

I’ve been getting very intimate with a girlfriend of one of my friends. Things have got physical and we’ve “made out” a bit, but I’m in a relationship, too.

I love my partner more than anything and I know I should stop, but I get things from this girl that I don’t get with my partner.

What do I do about it?

Coleen says

I don’t think you’re ready to be in a committed relationship, or you’re not with the right person.

You can’t love your partner more than anything or you wouldn’t be “making out” with this other girl. There’s obviously something missing.

This has all the ingredients to turn into a big mess – broken hearts and broken friendships.

So I think you should stop getting intimate with this girl and take some time to think about what you really want before it turns into a full-blown affair. And if you realise it doesn’t feel right with your partner, do the decent thing and tell her, so she has the chance to find someone who’s really into her.

Yes, it’s going to hurt, but not as much as it would if she found out you were sleeping with your friend’s girlfriend.