I WANT TO LEAVE HER FOR A MAN

Dear Coleen

I have a girlfriend, who I’ve been seeing for a while, but I’m also very attracted to men.

Recently, I have been chatting a lot to another guy who makes me feel really special and I’ve decided that I want to be with him, but how do I tell my girlfriend something like this?

She has no idea. I’d really appreciate any advice – I don’t want to hurt her.

Coleen says

First of all, you need to end things with her before getting involved with this man. So if you really think something is likely to happen between you and him, then don’t put it off.

If she finds out you’ve been sleeping with another guy behind her back, then that is going to hurt her. It’s never easy to end a relationship, even if you know it’s the right thing to do.

You can’t take away the hurt completely, but you can do it in the right way.

If you don’t want to tell her about this guy and that you’re attracted to men as well as women, that’s your call. But you can be honest that you don’t feel the relationship is working for you any more and that you want to be free to date other people.