HUBBY’S OFF SEX SINCE WEDDING

Dear Coleen

I’m a woman in my early 30s and I’ve been married for 18 months, although we’d been together for four years before we wed.

Before the wedding our sex life was pretty good and he was always up for it but, since the wedding, things haven’t been the same in the bedroom – he seems uninterested and preoccupied, and if we do get round to it, he often can’t stay aroused and so we give up.

What do you think is going on? I feel embarrassed talking to him about it.

Coleen says

I’m afraid you need to put your embarrassment to one side and ask him what he thinks the problem is.

Maybe you’ve been avoiding this because deep down you’re worried about what his answer is going to be.

There’s often a psychological reason behind cases of sexual dysfunction in men – maybe something has shifted for your husband since you got married.

Perhaps he’s preoccupied because he’s stressed about something – the last thing you’re in the mood for when you’re stressed is sex.

There could also be a physical cause, but he’d need to see his GP to investigate that.

It’s not an easy conversation to have, but you need to have it.

To the woman who’s worried about her fiancé’s rude stepfather spoiling their wedding day – don’t (Dear Coleen, November 27).

I had similar worries about my own dad and an uncle when I got married.

The day was so busy and exciting (it was a blur, actually) that I wouldn’t have noticed if they’d both been doing cartwheels through the reception!

My advice is to enjoy it and leave your mother-in-law and other relatives to keep an eye on him.

Gayle, via email