WHY DO I FEEL SO LONELY IN SIXTH FORM?

Dear Coleen

I’ve never felt so lonely and isolated. I’m in sixth form and it’s hard because of the stereotype that men aren’t allowed to express their emotions to other people.

I feel so out of place in my environment and I’m worrying about the end of year prom as I know there’s no point in me going.

Most people see me as an acquaintance rather than a friend, which kills me. I also feel like I’m falling behind in my studies because of the way I feel.

Can you give me some advice?

Coleen says

First of all, men are allowed to express their emotions and you have to reach out to someone – a parent, a teacher, a school counsellor, your GP – whoever you feel you could confide in.

The emotions and worries you’re dealing with are very common at your age. A lot of people in your year will feel the same.

I’m a mum of two boys (one just turned 30) and I would far rather they spoke to me about what was worrying them, than keep it inside.

There is always a solution, but sometimes you can’t see it as you need another perspective from someone else.

Also, I think you need to dig deep and find a little confidence to show your classmates you can be more than an acquaintance by trying to be more involved.

I know that’s easier said than done, but perhaps they think you prefer spending time on your own.

Please start telling people how you feel. They’ll listen and it’ll be a big weight off your shoulders.

Get in touch with youngminds. org.uk, which has lots of good info, resources and blogs. Write again and let me know how you get on.