I CRIED OVER MATE’S ENGAGEMENT

Dear Coleen

Recently, my best friend told me she was getting married. She invited me over for a girls’ night to break the news and my first reaction was to cry!

I was crying for myself, but I had to make out they were tears of joy at her announcement.

The two of us have been close for 10 years and we’re about to turn 30. We’ve both been single for a lot of that time and helped each other through heartbreak.

She’s been dating her boyfriend for 18 months. He’s a nice guy, and I guess I knew marriage was probably on the cards, but it still came as a shock.

It’s just made me realise that I’m the only one of our group of friends who’s still single.

My friend wants me to get involved with the wedding planning, but my heart isn’t in it – am I a terrible person?

Coleen says

No, of course you’re not a terrible person and it’s tough when everyone around you seems to be moving on.

But I think you have to try to separate yourself from your friend’s situation – in fact, stop comparing yourself to everyone else. It’s important to see what you do have in your life instead of what you don’t have and focus on the positives.

You’re still young and have plenty of time to meet the right person, but don’t be tempted to jump into a relationship that doesn’t feel right.

You have a great best friend – just because she’s getting married doesn’t mean she’ll disappear off the planet.

She’ll still need you and your nights in and nights out.

Get involved, enjoy it and be happy for her – she’ll do the same for you when it’s your turn.