SHE GIVES MEN THE EYE WHEN OUT WITH ME

Dear Coleen

My girlfriend and I have been together about 18 months and we’re both in our mid-20s and things are good.

But there’s something that really gets to me and I don’t know how to talk to her about it without coming across as jealous and needy and, well, a bit pathetic.

The problem is, she constantly eyes up other men when she’s with me – and even if we’re watching something on telly and there’s a fit bloke, she’ll tell me she fancies him.

I’m not usually the insecure type, but I’m starting to wonder whether she’s on the lookout for someone better. Even my sister has noticed she stares at other men and asked me about it.

Any ideas? Am I overreacting or should I bring it up?

Coleen says

It’s normal to look at other attractive people even if you’re in a relationship – I’m sure you’ve done it yourself. But, if your girlfriend is obviously doing this every time you’re out together and to the point where other people have noticed it, then, yes, you should bring it up.

If you don’t, it’ll start to affect your self-esteem and the relationship, so you need to know if you’re enough for her because you’re not confident that you are.

Maybe she’s not aware she’s doing it, or perhaps the insecurity lies with her in that she’s trying (consciously or unconsciously) to get other guys to notice her.

Next time she does it, talk to her about it calmly and see what she has to say. Mentioning it once might be enough to make her think about how she’s behaving.