WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT FLIRTY INTERN?

Dear Coleen

I’m worried that one of my husband’s interns at work has developed a crush on him, as she emails him a lot and her messages seem over-friendly.

She’s also suggested meeting outside the office for a drink to talk about work, which I think is inappropriate, as he is supposed to be her mentor and she’s quite a bit younger.

I don’t want to make something out of nothing, but my husband isn’t good at picking up on these kinds of signals and I’m starting to feel irritated by it – and specifically her!

He does receive emails from other interns and colleagues, but none with the kind of intimate tone of this girl’s messages.

Should I email her myself and tell her to back off?

Coleen says

I think you should talk to your husband first and tell him what your concerns are. Maybe he thinks you’re making too much of it, but if this girl gets fixated on him, it could make things really awkward for him at work.

I think it’s good to nip it in the bud and the best way to do that is for your husband to create some clear boundaries.

If she wants to discuss work-related stuff, then he should suggest it’s during work hours, but not in the pub in the evening, unless there’s a group of workmates going, as it might send the wrong message.