BOYFRIEND IS HOT, BUT THE SEX IS NOT!

I’m a woman in my early

40s and have been seeing my partner, who’s a similar age, for several months. We’re both divorced and met online, and he’s so right for me in almost every way.

The problem is sex. Although he’s hot and I really fancy him, he’s not good in bed. It’s like he hasn’t developed beyond teenage sex and doesn’t know how to please a woman.

I’ve never had a problem climaxing with any of my previous partners, but I can’t seem to get there with this one!

I don’t know what to do about it because I really like him, but sex is important to me and I’m constantly left feeling frustrated.

Help!

Look, I know it’s awkward to talk about sex, but I think you have to and, if you do, it really can bring more intimacy to the relationship. I think the key is to tell him what you like in bed without being critical of him.

You can do this when you’re in bed together, showing him and directing him, which can be very sexy, or you can have a conversation one night when you’re at home and relaxed, and perhaps start by asking him what turns him on.

The point is, we all like different things, but if you don’t tell him what you need, he’ll just carry on assuming you’re having a great time!