Coleen says

Of course your confidence has taken a knock and it hurts, but on the positive side, she’s been honest with you, which is the first step to finding a solution.

I’d suggest taking the pressure off sex – forget about that for a bit – and try to rebuild romance outside the bedroom.

Focus on the relationship and making her feel sexy and desired, do nice things for her and more kissing and hugging.

When you start to rebuild intimacy, it can put sex back on the agenda because you both want it and it’s not a question of just going through the motions.

It’s tough to find space for you as a couple when you have young children, so you have to make an extra effort to connect with each other and prioritise your relationship some of the time.