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Cheating on my hubby but I’m pregnant with his baby


Dear Coleen

My life is a mess and I don’t know how to sort it out. I’ve been cheating on my husband for a while with someone I met through a friend.

He’s exciting and sexy, although he’s also married and has a child.

I’ve been treading water in my marriage for a long time, but I’ve ignored the issue and I suppose this affair has made it even easier to avoid the problems at home.

My husband and I had been together a long time before we married and probably should have split up instead of walking down the aisle. We were teenage sweetheart­s and I think we both just expected we’d always be together.

We hardly ever have sex but a couple of months ago we came home after he’d been out with his mates and I’d been out with mine. We’d both had a few drinks and ended up having sex.

I’ve now discovered I’m pregnant, I know it’s definitely his, and I have no idea what to do.

My husband is overjoyed, but I don’t want to stay in this marriage. The man I’ve been having an affair with says it changes nothing for him and that he still wants to be with me.

How do I sort my life out?

Coleen says

Did you honestly not think there was a chance you’d get pregnant? You don’t seem to be thinking about the consequenc­es of any of the choices you’re making at the moment.

I think it’s important to take control and not just let things happen to you, and that means facing up to this affair and what you’re going to do about it.

If you really don’t want to be with your husband, then you need to tell him that. You can’t stay with him for the baby – bringing a child into a broken relationsh­ip will not fix it.

Yes, your husband will be angry and hurt, and probably a lot of other people will be, too, especially if you’ve been a couple for a long time.

But when the news is out and all the drama is over, you can start thinking about how you move on.

I’m not sure what this other man is promising you, though – does he intend to leave his wife or does he just want to carry on sleeping with you when he says the baby won’t change a thing?

Don’t leave your hubby for him. If you end the marriage, make sure it’s because it’s the right decision for you.

“He’s overjoyed but I don’t want to be in this marriage

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