GREAT SEX IS ALL WE HAVE IN COMMON

Dear Coleen

I’ve recently turned 30 and have been seeing my boyfriend for nearly a year. Here’s my dilemma – I love hanging out with him, but mostly because he’s great in bed and our sex life is amazing, but outside of the bedroom we have literally nothing in common.

Our friends are different types and we like different hobbies, movies, music and so on – and I find we have little to talk about apart from sex.

It means that we don’t often go out or do things together.

At 30, I’m really thinking about the future and want to get serious about dating. What do you think?

Coleen says

I think you need more than great sex to have a successful relationship which can go the distance. As good as the sex is, it can also be good with someone else – someone you can connect with on other levels, and who you fall in love with.

I’m not hearing anything about love in your letter – it’s all about lust. If you’re ready for something more meaningful, then I think you should be honest with your boyfriend about how you feel.

Maybe he’ll want to carry on in a more relaxed or non-exclusive arrangement or perhaps it’s just time to move on.