Helping someone who’s grieving
Losing a loved one is devastating, but knowing there’s someone to turn to can help people through the pain.
Yolanda Clarke – a volunteer with Cruse Bereavement Support, which partners Co-op Funeralcare – explains how you can help someone who’s grieving.
How will I know if someone needs my support?
Sometimes people will tell you; at other times it’s instinct. With a friend, you know if something’s wrong: they may go quiet, or phone you more. Just be there, with a card or a text saying “I’m here if you need me.” Often people don’t want to burden others, so check in – and ask questions.
How can I support someone?
There are many ways to do so, but it’s best to ask the person how you can help them; don’t assume.
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Are people finding it easier to talk about grief?
A lot of celebrities are doing documentaries about how loss has affected them, so people are becoming more aware. And with Covid, death stared us in the face in a way it never has before; it was in the news and we were talking about it. That’s a positive thing: death is part of our lives and none of us can avoid it, so it’s good to talk about it and take away the fear.