We both know all about bipolar.. and that more help is so badly needed
SHADOW Deputy Prime Minister Angela Rayner is full of admiration for how her mum Lynn Bower navigated life with bipolar disorder. ITV News’ deputy political editor Anushka Asthana can relate to this as her brother, who died 12 years ago, had the same condition.
To mark Mental Health Awareness Week, Anushka writes movingly about her brother for the first time, interviewing Angela, and the need to diagnose the condition far more quickly.
ITV’s deputy political editor shares family trauma with Labour deputy
This interview with Angela Rayner was quite different. We were not sparring over workers’ rights, or questions of tax and property. Instead, Labour’s deputy leader was describing her mum Lynn Bowen’s depths of depression.
“It’s just nothing. It’s just pain... She can’t move... She doesn’t want to live. It’s just real, deep, deep sorrow.”
Yet Angela, who as a child sometimes felt pain and anger, kept reminding me how proud she was of Lynn.
She said: “Even in her darkest hours, she tried her best.”
I had been desperate to discuss bipolar disorder with Angela after being stopped in my tracks by something she told Alastair Campbell and Rory Stewart on their podcast The Rest is Politics – Leading.
Angela believed earlier support may have transformed her mum’s life.
My brother had bipolar disorder, but sadly died aged just 37. Had he been diagnosed far earlier – would things have been different for him, too?
He was highly intelligent, one of the most brilliantly creative people I had ever known. He won a place at Cambridge University, was a wonderful musician, talented artist and the type of friend from whom love just poured out. But his illness also brought huge pain and confusion, leaving him and us feeling, at times, utterly helpless.
Through him I met others with bipolar disorder. They would try to describe the sheer disconnection of the psychosis they experienced, saying their highs could trigger behaviour just as life threatening as their suicidal lows.
The difference in mental health provision could be shocking.
In one case it took a week to see a consultant – in the other, we received that level of care within just minutes.
With early help she wouldn’t be at that crisis point
ANGELA RAYNER ON THE CARE OF HER MUM
After my brother’s death, I complained to the mental health unit about the lack of provision. To my surprise, they agreed with me and suggested, as a journalist, I write about it.
But I’ve felt unable to talk about my
brother until now. Maybe my experience could help me highlight some of these issues.
There has been a lot of talk about parity of esteem between physical and mental health, but I still see many of the same challenges.
Bipolar UK says over a million people live with this illness in Britain but getting a diagnosis still takes, on average, 9.5 years. The Royal College of Psychiatrists is calling the delay to be halved. It warns of a “lost decade” in which people can lose jobs, relationships, homes and even lives.
For some that means suicide. For others, such as in our case, it is more complicated. My brother had the wonderful support of medical parents who knew how to get him to the right care. But even in the most acute settings, that bipolar diagnosis and, therefore, the most appropriate treatment was delayed.
He died of a physical, lung-related disease, but we believe he would not have fallen ill but for the risks he took as a result of being bipolar. As a child, Angela questioned why her mum was different. She described asking pals if she could go round for tea and, if their parents said no because it was the second day in a row, she would sit on the kerb and wait. “I always remember feeling hungry as a child,” she said. Lynn struggled to read and write and once brought home dog food thinking it was stewing steak and, another time, shaving foam instead of cream.
I ask about any regrets she might have. She said Lynn had needlessly spent weeks in hospital, adding: “If she had got the intervention early on, and the support early on, she would not have ended up in that crisis point.”
Bipolar expert Sameer Jauhar said diagnosis delay can stretch from the late teens to the early 30s – a critical time in which people are developing relationships and life.
He said: “The rates of self harm, suicide are tremendously increased.” He suggests earlier screening when there are effective treatments.
Full report on ITV News, tonight 6.30pm, and available on ITVX.